Thoughts on friendship

“I’ll get by with a little help from my friends”

Pensive, withdrawn, lonely. The life of the world can be teeming around us, the high decibel sounds can be dinning in our ears and still we can be lonely. It is possible to be lonely in a crowd. Loneliness haunts the places where crowds gather. It is not the presence or absence of people that makes the difference because a person need not be lonely even if he/she is alone. Sometimes it is good to be alone. But that does not make us lonely. It is not a matter of being present with someone. It is a matter of being present to someone. This calls for special communication, special human interaction, special acceptance and understanding. If these are lacking, all we have is lonely people, each encased within his/her own impenetrable shell. No one wants to be lonely. People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.

To dissolve loneliness we need friends. A friend gives warmth, understanding, time, love oneself. A friend stands up to my anger, my selfishness, my short-comings. A faithful friend is a sure shelter. Whoever finds one has found a treasure. In his inimitable way, I suppose Snoopy would cut through the core and say, “Happiness is a friend who lets you be yourself and still loves you.” We need friends because we are social beings, not by choice, but by nature.

“I spent one morning with a friend and wished the day would never end…”

 

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Of anger

“He conquers the world, who patiently puts up with the abuse of his neighbours. He who controls his anger, as a horseman breaks an unruly horse, is indeed a charioteer and not he who merely holds the reins, but lets the horse go whither it would. He who sheds his anger just as a snake its slough, is a real hero. He who is not moved despite the greatest torments inflicted by others, will realize his aim. He who never gets angry is superior to the ritualist who faithfully performs for a hundred years the sacrifices ordained by scripture. Servants, friends, brothers, wife, children, virtue and truth abandon the man who gives way to anger. The wise will not take to heart the words of boys and girls.”

Sukracharya imparts wisdom to his daughter Devayani who is angry after being treated badly by her companion Sarmishta.

(Mahabharata by C. Rajagopalachari – p.34)

And after a long time…

Ever wondered how fast time flies? Its almost as if an hour isn’t 60 minutes anymore; and a day isn’t 24 hours! I think I’m experiencing a phenomenon that I call – “Time Crunch”. Time Crunch is a feeling where I just don’t have enough hours in a day. My days seem to have become smaller but in the broader view, its still ONE day that has gone by.

It feels like looking outside the window of a moving train; the trees that are closer, rocket past even before I can get a glance. However, the trees far off seem to chug along, before disappearing gradually. In parallel, minutes and hours whiz by before I know its gone. However, when I recline and look back at all the time that I have lived through, it seems so expansive. Sometimes, the feeling also associates with itself the guilt that so much time has gone by without any credible accomplishments. But I just have to suffice myself thinking all the time that has gone by was in preparation for something that has to be achieved in the time to come.

Since the new year, a lot of things have happened. Not many of much significant importance, but worth mentioning I guess. I upgraded my computer and its a faster, sleeker and a better machine now. But I miss my old PC! (Why do I get attached to ‘things’ so much?) My results were a pleasant surprise – I got 75.33%. 🙂 I’m using my dad’s Nokia N72 now and I’m happy that I have a camera (in the phone). Hopefully my posts will contain more photos from now on. Oh, dad bought a new phone – Nokia 7210 Supernova. He also bought a new scooter – Honda Activa (dark-cement-gray color)

Today, I wrote a post on Internationalized Domain Names (IDNs) for DNTemple, met my friends, ate ice-cream and tried squatting a mosquito in vain! 😛

To Chennai, Tirupathi and back!

It was a tiring but enjoyable trip. I left for Chennai early morning on the 9th of July by the Lalbagh Express and was pleasantly surprised when the train reached the destination at 12pm, 15 minutes earlier than it was supposed to. 😮 Not always do you get to see that happen! 🙂

Chennai is HOT! Its not just the temperature but the humidity, owing to its coastal location. I stayed there for two days, and since I do not know Tamil, had a tough time communicating with people there. I shifted to English when people did not understand my Tamil and gave me blank stares. It did not help much either. Anyways, another surprising fact is crow population of Chennai is not less than 10 times as that of Bangalore! Its crazy! I guess the sewage management of the city is the main reason.

We then went to Tirupathi. My 70-year old grandmother climbed the hills! Yeah!! We started early morning at around 3.30 AM and by the time we reached the top of the seventh hill, it was almost 10.00 AM. Wonder how she could muster all the strength from? I also met a few of my college friends from the Mechanical Department while climbing the hills.

And as usual, the shrine was thronged by millions of people, and it took 3 hours for us to move through the entwined queueing system and finish our darshan. Overall, the trip was an enjoyable experience. 🙂

P.S: This entry has been due for a long time. I came back from my trip on the 14th of July.

Going out again!

I was of the opinion that sudden plans spring up only among friends. And I was pleasantly surprized when my grandma, yes, my grandma called me up this morning and asked me to accompany her to Chennai tomorrow! We’ll be visiting my uncle there, and also, leave to Tirupathi on Friday, then return to Bangalore on Monday. (Which leaves me just 3 days after I come back to get my Driver’s License done; or else, my Learner’s License would lapse, and I’ll have to start all over again! Talk about dumb rules!)

I’m off to reserve tickets for the morning train tomorrow; we’ll be leaving at 6 ‘o clock. So another week away from my computer! Aww.. 😦