The little things

Station Triangeln, Malmö

After the terrible twos, a parent can only hope that things improve. But little do we know that when they turn 3, kids become threenagers!

Threenagers are a species with unlimited energy! Unbound curiosity; always listening; attention back-holes; and fearless adventurers!

They listen to everything you say and use it in contexts unimaginable to you — causing potentially embarrassing situations. You’re surprised at the transformation from the monsters at 2, to turn into mini-lawyers at 3. This species is adept at negotiation, masters at manipulation – they know how to react to each parent based on their moods; also know whom to ask when and how so that the decision is in their favor.

They are incredibly attentive to detail and so good at picking up patterns!

The photo above is what you would see if you looked out of the train window at the Triangeln station in Malmö. The following exchange occurred between me and my 3-year-old when the train stopped here:

Me: S, do you know which station this is?

S: Yes, it is Triangeln.

Me: (surprised, because he could not recognize it before that day) That’s right! But how do you know?

S: Because there are triangles here.

Me: (searching for a triangle all over the place, gave up) I can’t find it. Where is it?

S: (pointing at the wall) There.

I travel there every day, but failed to notice the tiny triangles in the pattern on the wall! It made me realize that growing older trains us to look at the bigger picture so often that we miss looking at the little things.

Photo by Jonathan Hoxmark on Unsplash

The perfection block!

I’ve been reading Seth Godin’s blog and been watching a few videos of him talking and I admire his way with words and how simple he makes everything seem.

One of the things that struck me was the idea of how the “writer’s block” isn’t actually a feeling that stops you from writing anything, but it is the one that stops you from writing something imperfect.

Elizabeth Gilbert shares her views on how after she wrote the international bestseller – Eat Pray Love – she was immensely bothered by her own success. She describes that the success of her book overshadowed her drive to write the next one – because she feared the next one wouldn’t be as good.

Seth calls the writer’s block a myth. He says that a person does not simply stop writing, his fear of writing something substandard overrides his will to write – ‘Oh, what if it isn’t good enough?’ – this is similar to what Elizabeth felt. Seth says, ‘show me 50,000 words of bad writing, then I can probably agree that you have a writer’s block’. He suggests: ‘Consider the alternative to writer’s block: the drip. A post, day after day, week after week, 400 times a year, 4000 times a decade. When you commit to writing regularly, the stakes for each thing you write go down’. And he has been doing this for several years now.

So the next time you are having a writer’s block, a coder’s block or a painter’s block, ask yourself this – the probability of success is higher when you do something than when you don’t, isn’t it? 🙂

Smile For You!

Years ago, when a friend of mine graduated from his school, he was presented with a plastic file containing 16 printed pages with this cover:

taolife-a-smile-for-you

It was a collection of articles, poems and parables that had instantly caught my attention. So, I had kept a copy of them with me. And while cleaning my bookshelves, I was delighted to find it again. I plan to digitize the content on my blog over time. You can find all the content from that collection tagged as: smile-for-you

What an Idea, Sirji!

A few days ago, I came up with silly expansions using the letters in the word “idea” –

IDEA – Intellectual Declaration of Enhanced Apprehension

(Bad) IDEA – Idiotic Disclosure of Extravagant Attitude

(Good) IDEA – Innovative Deduction of an Employable Axiom

What do you think? Do they make sense? 🙂

Oponions – Opinions that make you cry

Someone (presumably a great person) once said, “Opinions are like wrist watches. Each shows a different time; and everyone believes that their time is accurate.” Having an opinion isn’t really a bad thing. A good conversationalist always has an opinion about everything.

Opinions are an individual’s perception of a fact or an event, while Oponions are opinions that stink, and make you cry!

The reaction to the recent decision to star Ben Affleck as Batman in the upcoming movie has stirred quite an upheaval with die-hard fans opposing the move calling it bad for the movie franchise. One comment on this Forbes article read –

“… The truth is Affleck is a smug looking Boston frat boy, totally antithetical to the dark, tortured ‘Gotham’ nature of the character….Besides that, he’s one of the worst actors I (and a lot of other people, apparently) have ever seen in film

IMO the only role that suited Affleck was the self satisfied jerk-boy stockbroker in ‘Boiler Room’…Because that’s the kind of character his persona exudes …”

While another said

“… I don’t care about how much money this movie makes or how much success the actor playing Batman has had. All I care about is that the part is done right and I just don’t feel Affleck is the right person for it. Could I be wrong? Yes, but my opinion will be good enough for me until Ben proves me wrong …”

No points for guessing the oponion among the above comments. The internet is full of such oponions. It has in fact, become very frustrating to read comments on popular websites – especially Youtube. There is also a twitter account (@AvoidComments) dedicated to discourage people from reading comments online.

It is easy to be misinformed now more than ever because of how information and access to it has grown in multitude over the last few decades. In my opinion, opinions are good to have. As long as you re-visit them often, put them to test with intellectual discussions, wring them off of falsity and you are willing to change them when the truth-brick is hurled at you! One quote by James Lowell springs to mind –

The foolish and the dead alone never change their opinion.

P.S.: Here’s an article that rightly sums up how silly the whole reaction to the “Ben Affleck as Batman” scenario is.