Its imperative in any friendship that in the course of time, one needs the help and probably expertise of the other person. What else is friendship? You tend to complement the drawbacks in the other person and so does he. (At least that’s the way it is expected to be.) How far can this balance be tested? How far can one person constantly depend upon, or use the other person?
For me, someone who believes that the best way to have good friends is to be one; it is hard to say ‘No’. I tend to be used by my friends, but I’ve never felt it that way. I’m somehow happy to help always. Interestingly enough, I’m not okay accepting anyone’s help. I believe that the greatest sin in life is to have someone else do your work for you, when you are actually fit and healthy and it is well within your ability to do it.
4 responses to “How far is ‘too far’?”
u have a put up an interesting question at the end and have given quite a convincing answer at the beginning….. 🙂
relying on another person at the same time calling him ur friend is not a person’s inability to rely on himself.
it is his strength to feel another person as a part of himself and exercising as much authority as is courtesy.
for ex u cant demand ur hand to walk for you and ask ur leg to feed you….. isn’t it ridiculous…?
the same way we can rely on a friend as far as our conscience permits us (applicable subject to predefined conditions of the word 😉 )
Hey man. 🙂
Agreed. But if it becomes a habit, it may as well, end up that way. 🙂
Very true, but don’t you need the other person’s acknowledgment? What if that person differs in opinion? Friends don’t have to always have concurrent opinions. (I’d say, difference of opinions, to an extent, adds spice to friendship and helps it grow stronger.)
Thanks for stopping by and commenting; it makes me think more on what I’ve written. 🙂
the extent to wch a person can be banked upon is taken care of by the word ‘courtesy’. and sure u need an acknowledgment…. but this is not anything wch can happen between people right away…. it starts off as little favors being asked and littler helps done…. and it grows cumulatively…. with time….. and lo…!! u are speaking from life’s perspective and me, from the overview-of-life’s……
Well, frankly, I had in mind a person (who keeps helping everyone around him even though most of the times he is used) and another who keeps taking help and when his turn comes, he’s not able to help up to the expectation of the former.
Now tell me, does that affect the relationship?