I’ve seen a lot of break-ups in my life already. That too, without having a girlfriend yet. Lol! From my experience, I really cannot tell you why people break-up; but what I’ve inferred is the possible reasons as to why they might.
When you are impressing someone, before you start going around with that someone, you put forward the best persona of yourself. Sometimes, well, most of the times, this ‘you’ is not the real you. You tend to hide your not-so-friendly-part of yourself and adjust with the person. You tend to act as though you are ‘OK’ with everything that the person says, does and thinks.
This image of yours is, well, not stable; firstly since it is not exactly what you are, and also, it is being challenged every time the person does something that you don’t like. There will come a day, when you can take it no more. Then, everything that was once ‘OK’ with you, will become irritating and intolerable.
This may just be one of the million reasons why people break-up everyday; another one that I figured is ‘lies’. If you are lying to keep a relationship afloat, you’ll find it impossible to bring it back to life once it has sunk. Lies destroy a person’s trust in you. And trust is vital in any relation.
The brain-seed of this post was actually a Reuters report on the tech-savvy way of ending a relation:
U R dumped — one in seven say they have suffered the same fate as Britney Spears’ ex-husband and been told it’s all over via text message or email, a survey said Friday.While hiding behind technology might appear a cowardly way of splitting up, it contrasts with the four percent who simply drop all communication with their lovers without notice.”Most of us send emails and texts everyday, so it comes as no surprise they are now being used to ditch someone — however distasteful this is,” said Rob Barnes from moneysupermarket.com, which carried out the survey.
“The results show one per cent of the population would use a social networking site to dump a partner. It would be interesting to see how this changes as sites such as Facebook and MySpace become more apparent in our everyday lives.”
One of the most high-profile victims of dumping by text was Kevin Federline, who reportedly received news that pop singer Spears was filing for divorce while being filmed for a television show.
The survey said 15 percent of the 2,194 people questioned had been dumped by text or email, although a quarter of those in the most tech-savvy 18 to 24-year-old age group would choose the traditional method — a letter.